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                    Acacia Counseling
 
           Gene Douglas, M.Ed. LPC LMFT

TAPAS ACCUPRESSURE TECHNIQUE (TAT) 

To treat a problem using TAT, follow these instructions:
1.) Rate the strength of your feeling you are experiencing right now, on a scale of 1-10, when you think of the problem.
That number is the SUD (Subjective Units of Discomfort.)
2.) Put your thumb against the inside corner of one eye. Place the ring finger against the inside corner of the other eye.
3.) Place the middle two fingers against your forehead, about a quarter inch above a line between the eyebrows so the
two fingers are lined up with the upper part of the eyebrow.
4.) Cup the other hand, and place it behind your head, with the thumb against your neck, right where it meets the base of the skull.
The little finger will be pressed against your head where it rests. Don't lay your hand flat against your head.
5.) Close your eyes and think of the feeling or event or person that bothers you. Continue for one minute, or until you feel a "shift"
in your body before that. This may be a reflexive sigh.
6.) Keep your pose, and repeat a statement reminding you of the problem in your mind. It may be a person's name,
a phrase about what happened, or the name of the feeling. Continue repeating for one minute, or until you feel a shift.
7.) Keep the pose, and repeat in your mind a statement which is opposite of the problem -- even if you don't believe it.
This might be "I will feel comfortable when I do that," or "I will feel calm and relaxed," whatever is opposite to what has been the case.
Continue repeating for one minute, or until a shift occurs.
8.) Keep the pose, and concentrate your attention on the part of your body where you feel your feelings. That will be different for different people.
Continue for one minute, or until a shift occurs.
9.) Rate your SUD again.

TAT Links:
Learning and Using TAT
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcNlj2SdzmM
How To Do TAT
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-rDF_qUntDg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcxaZW57ymY















    
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How to respond to verbal attacks



You are not responsible for what another person says. That’s just something they are doing. So you are not responsible for correcting the truth or accuracy of what they say. In fact, if their statements have nothing to do with what to do or not to do, or how to solve a problem, there is no need to be concerned at all about the truth of their remarks.

Ask yourself -- does that person believe what they say, or was that just a harassing remark? If I respond to their statement, is there any chance they would say, “I see your point. I was wrong about that.” If you believe the answer is “No,” then there is no reason to waste your breath trying to correct a false statement, especially if it was an accusation, and especially if you think the accuser does not really believe it.

If you have been verbally attacked, is that person playing your prosecutor, judge and jury? If that is the case, is there any chance that any one of those roles would rule in your favor?  If no, then why defend yourself? Why assume that your words would make any difference? Are they really your prosecutor, judge, or jury?

And why assume that their words make any difference in whatever is the reality?  Don't be lured into butting heads, especially if that has been the pattern in the past.  If your response has been to be devastated, now that you see through the game, there is no reason to be destroyed by their words.

There is no need to take nonsense remarks seriously.  She or he is just making sounds.  Their meaning need not be taken seriously, though that person's motivation for saying them should.  Do you want their game to be successful?


So, if you are not going to argue about every point, what do you do instead? For one thing, if this is about behavior, such as “You always...” or “You never...” or “Yesterday you did...” then try to turn the discussion from “You are a bad person” to behavior, and how to solve a problem. 


Ignore the “You are a bad person” aspect, and just move to what to do about it. Forget about correcting the truth of the statement, such as whether you really never do this or that.  (See "Fighting Fair" on the "More" list.)


If the discussion can not be turned to behavior and problem solving and the future, then try to ignore the insults as if they are just background noise. (Do this only if the other person would not resort to violence)


Rather than responding defensively to every claim that is made, substitute answers like, “I see.” or “I didn’t know you felt that way.” “I didn’t realize that.” “That’s interesting,” or, “Thank you for sharing that with me.” (Even if you don't mean that.)


To avoid getting sucked in to the game, try to imagine the person as a radio sitting on a table and playing. It’s just sound coming out of it, and nothing more.

Remember, in a game of tennis, the game can’t continue unless you bat the ball back. If you don’t send it back, then the game is over.

See the book "Games People Play" by Eric Berne.  Read the games "Courtroom" "Uproar," and "If it Weren't For You."